Planning

A Guide To Dealing With Toddlers On Your Wedding Train

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Having toddlers on your bridal train can be tasking. Albeit, it can be avoided. Most bridal trains are never truly complete without a little bride, little groom, ring bearer or flower girls.

Here’s a short guide on how to deal with little children on your wedding train.

1. Everybody Loves A Buddy

Yeah, everybody loves to have someone that they are comfortable with around and this mostly applies to children. 

If you can, the kids on your bridal train should be quite familiar with each other, you or even the other adults around. This helps calm them down. It gives them a sense of ‘security’.

2. An Idle Mind…

Keeping the kids busy saves you the stress of having to control them every time.

Hence, a game or a book with lots of photos will help them sit quietly if they have to, especially during the exchange of vows.

3. No Sweets Allowed!

Although scientists say, it is a myth that sweets make children hyper. We still advise that for those few hours, they should be kept off sweets. Better safe than sorry, right?

4. Beginner’s Luck?

Beginner’s luck doesn’t always fly so if the child (children) you intend to have on your bridal train have never been on any prior to yours. A little pep talk or practice before the D-day might be quite useful.

5. Chaperones Never Hurt 

Having a train guide will help you keep the children in check and nobody has to run helter-skelter trying to keep them in one place.

Children are amazing as they are a handful, proper guidance is needed when dealing with them. Although, it is advised not to overdo it, if you ask us, the most beautiful bridal trains are those with children.

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The Main Reason Behind A Bridal Train You Probably Didn’t Know About

A bridal train is usually made up of the chief bridesmaid, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, little groom, little bride, page boy and balloon girls.

Some even go as far as having more than one chief bridesmaid or best man. However, the big question is do we know the significance of having these people tag along you and your spouse on your wedding day?

If you just followed the band wagon and had or intend to have a bridal train… It sure does have its significance in history like almost every other thing.

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According to the Roman ritual “confarreatio”, 10 witnesses were required to be present at a wedding while the couple recited sacred verses. Though these witnesses were all men, female attendants did escort the bride to the groom’s home for the ceremony.

Furthermore, the bridesmaids were required to dress just like the bride in order to confuse vengeful spirit presences who might try to harm or sabotage the newlyweds.

Another comes from the Bible, in the time of Jacob’s marriage to Leah and Rachel, each wife brought a female servant to the ceremony. They were literally the bridesmaids.

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Groomsmen, however, have a much darker back story. Much of their history revolves around marriages by capture, when a bride was literally captured and abducted from her family.

In some traditions, groomsmen were called Bride’s Knights because they helped carry the bride to the wedding. More like they were taking her from her disapproving relatives to be joined with the man she loved, protecting her from would-be kidnappers.

Time has changed and so has the role of each group on the bridal train.

 

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