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What We Hate About Arranged Marriages

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An arranged marriage is a type of marital union where the bride and groom are selected by their families. Sometimes, a professional matchmaker may be used.

Arranged marriage has its pros and cons like every other thing in life but there are a lot of things that couples are deprived of when it seems like they were just roped in.

Here are a few reasons why we may frown at arranged marriages.

1. No Dating Quiver

Couples who are often brought together by family members and the like barely enjoy the tremor of a relationship. Most times, dating can be tensed, more like an audition for a life partner.

2. Detachment

Sometimes, you may feel you are preparing for someone else’s wedding ceremony rather than yours. Especially, if the arrangement was sudden.

3. Constant Intrusion By Family

If the marriage was arranged / planned by family, they would most likely intrude for the most part of your relationship with your spouse.

4. Love Is Farfetched

Half the time, love is hardly ever involved and really, no one deserves a loveless marriage.

5. Familiar Stranger

You probably do not really know a lot about your partner as the union was masterminded by both families who feel they know you and your spouse too well. Living together can feel awkward.

Most couples do not enjoy their big day because they are busy trying to work out how they would live with their ‘arranged’ partners forever. However it maybe, marry someone who you are a 100% comfortable with.

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7 Essential Questions You Must Ask Your Groom Before Walking Down The Aisle

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Your groom should be your closest ally before and after your wedding of course. A bride/wife-to-be should know her prospective husband through and through even before they begin plans to tie the knots.

Arranged marriages are rare these days, hence it is perceived that the bride may have known the groom for sometime before accepting to marry him. Nonetheless, having a thorough question and answer section with the groom is important so as to clarify and affirm certain issues that may have come up during the course of the relationship/courtship.

Here are 7 vital questions you should ask:

1. What is your networth?

This is major so as to avoid incurring debts while making plans for your wedding and other future plans. You both should know how much the other person earns annually.

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2. Do you have a terminal illness/health condition?

Health is wealth as the popular saying goes. Knowing your partner’s state of health is important.

3. How many children would you love to have?

This is another very sensitive issue that must be discussed before hand.

4. What’s your take on living with extended family members?

In Africa, Nigeria in particular this has caused a lot of conflict among married couples. Ask your spouse if he is comfortable having extended family members in your home or not.

5. Are you a religious or spiritual person?

You should actually know this about your spouse from the get-go.

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6. How big are you about your personal space?

Most people are quite particular about their individuality – married or not. You should know your partner’s take on this.

7. Do you like to share house chores?

As trifling as this may seem, it’s a deal breaker for many people so knowing where he stands regarding splitting house chores is necessary.

These 7 questions should be a guide on what questions you should ask your groom to-be to avoid a precarious situation.

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