We are great fans of Funke Bucknor-Obruthe’s series and find her “Funke Says” vlog extremely valuable for brides and grooms. In previous episodes, she shared how to look fabulous for your big day, how to choose colours for weddings, etc. Now she tackles intercultural weddings – the sometimes confusing world of planning a wedding where the bride and groom are from different tribes, or even, countries!
Planning an intercultural wedding can seem difficult. Whose culture prevails? Where do the parents come in? How do you handle things that may be a taboo for one of the families? Who does what? How do you decide?
Here are some tips to help plan such a wedding:
1) Understand the culture – You need to seat down with the elders. Find out what things are considered taboos. Also, what do they like and not like. Ensure they have an open mind and are not judgmental.
2) Learn to compromise – For example, in Ibo culture, the groom pays for the wedding and in Yoruba culture, the bride pays for the wedding. So what happens when an Ibo groom is marrying a Yoruba bride. You can take aspects that you love and infuse into your wedding.
The same applies when marrying someone from a different country. It is very important that you are covered legally.
3) Choose your wardrobe – determine what you are going to wear, that is, your spouse’s cultural wear or yours. A bride could start with her cultural outfit and then change to her spouse’s cultural outfit to show that she has now embraced his culture.
Have an open mind and embrace the good and bad of a culture. No culture is perfect.
Watch the great video to learn more
Next episode, Funke will discuss Choosing Entertainment providers (i.e. Band and DJ). Stay connected
About #FunkeSays
#FunkeSays is a vlog series from Funke Bucknor–Obruthe of Zapphaire Events and Decor by Furtullah. She is an esteemed event planner in Nigeria and author of “The Essential Bridal Handbook”. She shares information from her handbook via the series. To stay updated, follow @FunkeSaysvlog on Twitter.
